I was never for “taking a break” when it comes to relationships. My mindset used to go straight to Like what do you need a break for? A break means a BREAK UP to me. Do you homie ! Until I realized, there are people that consume themselves in their relationships and when everything in their world is falling apart, they need to let go of a few things for a little bit. Take a breather and really figure out what if the relationship is really what they want to pursue. Yup! It doesn’t matter if you are together for 4 months or 4 years. We are really getting older man. It’s really time to make those life decisions. And sometimes when life just continues to slap you in the face, there is never nothing wrong with taking a step back to self reflect.
If you are, ever was, or open to taking a break if you’re significant suggests doing so… here are 5 ways to survive it.
- Get clarification on what the break is for, how long, and the rules. You want to give your partner space, but not enough space to start getting it poppin with someone else. So trust, compromising, and communication is definitely a needed components in the relationship to have understanding of what the break consists of.
2. Keep Busy !
Start a business. Rearrange your apartment. Go through your closet and get rid of old clothes. Hang out with your friends you don’t get to see regularly. Hit the gym. Try out some new recipes. Experiment with DIY projects. Read a book. Write an Ebook. Making money, having fun, and just doing things for you and only you is a rewarding feeling. And let’s face it, when is the last time you had time for yourself?
3. Talk to your family and close friends. If you are giving your significant other a little breathing room, you are going to want to feel that void of talking to someone. Why not use this time to check on your people catch up with them. Get those relationships back that were slowly deteriorating due to adulating.
4. Travel ! Go on a trip with your friends or family. Hell, go on a trip yourself! If you don’t mind your own company lol. Small trips to ease your mind, body and soul. It doesn’t have to be far. Go to a new state or travel a few hours outside of your residence. Seeing new places and enjoying new experiences will have you feeling right on your break.
5. Take the time to reflect on yourself and relationship. Think of those things you really want to change in your relationship to make it better. Think of how you can be a better partner for your significant other. If things were left on bad terms before the break up, think of life without your partner and the steps you need to take to move on from the relationship. Sometimes we don’t want to think of the worst, but it’s healthy to have an escape plan just in case. Got to protect your heart. In this case, hoping for the best but prepared for the worst outcome. Stay ready.
All in all depending on the circumstances of your relationship, taking a break can be a good or bad thing. It is all in how you choose to deal. You can totally have an optimistic outlook on if the relationship succeeds or not. Or you can mope. Don’t mope ya’ll. Who knows, you’re partner could be planning a proposal. So take time to think …as a couple what can make the relationship last or what do ya’ll need to work on to make sure it does. We get so blinded by love we don’t take the time to really assess the relationship. Likes and don’t likes, how to keep the spice going, the future, etc. Whatever is lacking in your relationship think of ways to express that to your significant other. This is that time.
Good Luck Love birds.